I can still feel guilty about this.



Though I teach (and buy in 100%) to the notion that self-care is not selfish, I can still occasionally catch myself thinking I will relax after I complete all of the to-do list items, work projects, [fill in the blank, etc.] is done.


Particularly when so many of us are working from home, assisting our kids in virtual school, all while endeavoring to stay healthy, we need to take a radical stance on self-care.


Which is why I was so happy to join Karin Mallett and Bo Koltnow on their Saturday at Sunrise Self-care Series on WFMZ-TV to talk about why self-care is not selfish and offer up some simple ways to infuse even the busiest of days with its goodness.


Here are the takeaways:


Self-care is not selfish.


Self-care is simply attending to our mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.


Not only does it positively impact us but also our family, friends, and colleagues in a positive ripple effect. Research shows that when we treat ourselves with kindness and compassion we are more able to give it to others.


Consider it an experiment. Get creative. Brainstorm a list of simple to outrageous ideas, from old favorites to way outside your comfort zone. Try it out once, if you don’t like it you never have to do it again. Learn to Belly Dance via Youtube, test a new recipe, head out for a walk on a new-to-you trail.


Keep it short and simple. Start with one 5-min habit. Getting started is often the hardest part. Make self-care a daily habit.


Work your own edge. Know yourself. Only you know what feels like self-care to you. Some of us are in need of rest, others of us movement. Whatever you choose should feel restful, re-energizing, replenishing, or fun. If it doesn’t, move on to the next item on your list.


Likewise, only you know how best to keep yourself accountable.


For some of us, once we commit to ourselves, that is enough, however most of us need outward accountability—get an accountability buddy or share on Facebook. Log it in an app or in a notebook. Others of us need to be clear on why we are practicing self-care. Let your why guide your motivation. Experiment with and use whatever method works.


How do you practice self-care? I’d love to hear about it!


Life is short. We owe it to ourselves to enjoy the ride.

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Shonda Moralis, MSW, LCSW

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